Tonight I was driving on this beautiful fall night and I was listening to the radio. One of my favorite songs came on. It’s a love song.. a sweet song about couples staying together, being an example of love to those who look on. The sad thing about this video and song is that it was sung by Vince Gill. He sang it for and the movie is with his first wife. Yeah… he then left his wife for, professing Christian, Amy Grant. Check it out here -
I got to thinking about this and thought about my dear Grandparents Ken and Jane Pierpont they have the cutest love story. They met at a church Sunday school picnic. I love hearing their full story. I believe it’s now been almost 54 years of marriage for them. They would tell it’s because of Jesus and His work in their lives and hearts keeping them solely for each other throughout those years.
I was working on an older lady client you came into the salon/school the other day. She said she was married at age 17. And was still married to the same man. Over 50 years. I asked what her secret was, because I know to ask older people for wisdom. She looked at me through the mirror and she said when we said our vows it was not “hopefully this will work out” or “we will try to make this work” she said “We went into this with no option. This will work out!” She said, “So many people today go into marriage with prearrangement’s if things don’t work out! We just didn’t do that back then”.
As I was driving tonight and this song was playing. Someone had called in and it was their anniversary and wanted it played for them. I got to thinking… that’s what I want. Unlike the generation I am growing up with I don’t and will not go into marriage thinking…. “if” this works out. Or maybe this will work. Or I will try to be faithful as long as I can hold out. No. When I say my vows, when I look into his eyes whoever it may be… it will be for life. It will mean forgiveness when he does something painful that hurts like fire, it will mean staying and loving… when all I want to do is turn and walk away… it will mean when someone walks by and they look younger or better… I have eyes and heart for the one I married and eyes for only him. It will mean remaining faithful to that man… no matter what happens and building your life around and with his. Having his children. Always believing the best even when doubts arise. Maybe that’s why I am taking my time. If you want this then that’s why it’s so extremely important to wait for the man… who desires the same things. And makes Christ his focus. This is what I want. I pray with tears in my eyes, “God help me have this” I know that without Jesus, it can’t happen. And I know that a three fold cord can’t easily be broken and Jesus is the center of that cord.
To me this is what love really is. It’s not the way hollywood would have us see it. It’s not the self indulging books about passion that are unrealistic that we can only read about… it’s about couples like my Grandparents. So few have it. But Grandma and Grandpa we are watching you! I am watching you and when I want to see what true love should be, I will look at you. Thanks for being faithful.
This is sweet, Holly! And very true. It reminds me of my grandparents, too. (married for 72 years now, by the grace of the Lord!) Thanks so much for always sharing your heart ~ it’s a great encouragement to me! Hugs!
Holly,
I know that the Lord will honor Your heart’s desire. He has a plan, just be patient and know that He wants His best for you. I will be praying for you. Be patient, you will be rewarded for it! <3
Thank you Holly… That is so sweet of you….You are so precious to us and we pray for you every day…. Your grandpa gets sweeter every day too and so does our Savior… Love you so much…Grandma
Holly, sweet stuff, this kind of love does exist! Look for God to honor your desire because it is straight from His heart to yours! Some man out there is in for a real blessing some day!!!
Holly, sweet stuff, this kind of love does exist! Look for God to honor your desire because it is straight from His heart to yours! Some man out there is in for a real blessing some day!!!
Holly, beautiful post! And so very true! I can attest to this from experience. Waiting until 29 to be married to the one that God had saved for me is the best thing ever. Totally worth the pain of waiting while all my friends, siblings, and cousins got married! I would wait all over again! Mark is such an incredible husband, and he loves Jesus so much! People (especially people in the church) kept prodding and pressuring me to do this or that, but God knew and He is the One who brought Mark to me and intricately knit us together as husband and wife with Himself as the third strand holding us together. Our God is amazing!
Praise the Savior, Rachel.. that is precious!
I agree with Rachel’s post, Holly. The Lord will bless you for waiting for the right one! I know that Mary is thankful she did! Your grandma Pierpont and I do pray often for each of the children and family members represented by our combined families! Will continue to lift you up in prayer! <3
Dear Holly,
Thank you for the beautiful post! My grandparents have been married for over 50 years….probably about 55, 56 something now! I, too am dedicated to waiting for a man who wants real love….God’s love!
Thanks for your writing.
Blessings,
Allison
This was beautiful Holly. Thanks for sharing your heart! <3 ya!
Wow, that is so true! I was just thinking lately about all the broken marriages surrounding us, and how there are sooo many! It just darn near breaks your heart! God, truely is amasing! He knows our every need and even our every want. If we are patient, His perfect plan for us will happen. Rushing into things just because society pressures it, is never a wise thing to do! We must wait on the Lord, for He has plans to prosper us, not to harm us!
Such a wonderful story Holly! Really inspirational!